When you’re in the first stages of a new love it’s easy to get swept along in the all-encompassing current that comes with it.
Your thoughts are filled with nothing but your partner and everything seems duller and less colorful when they’re not around. It's a beautiful thing and feeds our soul with the spice of love and lust.
While there is nothing wrong with submerging yourself in your new relationship, you do want to make sure to carve out some time regularly for yourself to ground, reflect on this new situation and connect with your spirits...also known as self-love.
This practice of spending time exclusively with yourself to renew your mind, body and spirit is essential for the long term health of your relationship.
Encourage yourself and your partner to engage in a few of these self-love activities and you'll be well on your way to enhancing your relationship with yourself AND your new partner for years to come.
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Find Time For Your Hobbies
Spending time doing the things we love makes us happy. It puts us in a good mood, which helps to maintain a healthy mental health status. It can lower stress levels, improve sleep quality, and improve our physical well-being, especially if that hobby is something like running or yoga.
While you may be tempted to let go or grow lax of your hobbies after finding your new love, it's important to stick with them. Making your hobbies a priority throughout the relationship, and especially in the beginning, allows you some continuity between pre-love and post-love.
When we invest in ourselves just as much as we invest in our new partner, we reap the rewards of long-term, holistic well-being. As the newness of the relationship wears off, there isn't a major shift in behavior which can throw some relationships off. Sticking with your hobbies throughout ensures that your partner recognizes that your alone time is a part of the package of being with you.
Whether it's daily, weekly, or monthly, make sure you continue to engage in solo activities that feed your soul to ensure you don't lose this important piece of yourself along the way.
Be Honest With Your Partner
Effective communication is the building block of all relationships but perhaps especially true for romantic relationships. This skill sounds so simple in theory but can be one of the hardest things to actually execute. Part of good communication is being honest with your partner about all things.
If you are feeling like you need some alone time or are missing friends and family that you used to see more regularly, don’t be afraid to speak up. You can say this in a loving and non-confrontational way.
Suggest that he/she spend some time doing something for themselves as well while you enjoy your personal time. This open communication can set the stage for a healthy and happy relationship that can stand the test of time.
Set Clear Boundaries (and stick to them!)
All healthy relationships have one thing in common. Each person respects their partner and the boundaries they have created.
Maybe you know your partner doesn’t like to be talked to until they’ve had their morning coffee. But does your partner know that your monthly massage appointment is a non-negotiable self-love practice?
Have you shared with your partner that going to the gym helps you feel strong and healthy and is therefore a required expense? Whatever it may be, when you prioritize self-care, you are inadvertently creating boundaries as well that say “this is special and important to me and you must respect that”.
Practice Conscious Bathing
Conscious bathing is the practice of being intentional during your daily shower or bath routine. Before, during and after, try clearing your mind of all thoughts and emotions. Try to connect with every inch of your body and allow the water and aromas from these amazing Aromatherapy Soaps to help transform your attitude into one of joy.
By incorporating this bath meditation type technique, you may find yourself better able to handle stressful situations that come your way. This low stress lifestyle can lead to other positive improvements as well.
Regardless of what you do to practice self love in a new relationship, remember to be consistent. Practicing self-care in a relationship is just as important as when you were single, maybe more so. You can only be the best version of yourself when your cup is filled. When you shower yourself with love, you can do a better job of loving others as well.